WHY DO PEOPLE ASK FOR ADVICE AND NOT TAKE WHEN IS GIVEN?

I am the biggest offender.WHY DO PEOPLE ASK FOR ADVICE AND NOT TAKE WHEN IS GIVEN?
Haha, I know. I always think that. Whenever I feel I'm giving someone five star advice, I think in the back of my head, ';Whatever...not like they're even gonna listen to me.'; This is why. People ask questions, looking for advice, but in their own mind they already know what they're going to do. They're just seeking validation from the people who happen to agree with them (if any). They disregard the answers that go against their thinking, and then feel justified when they do what they originally intended to do. I am also a big offender.WHY DO PEOPLE ASK FOR ADVICE AND NOT TAKE WHEN IS GIVEN?
There are several reasons. Some people just need to vent about whatever is bothering them and the best ';starter'; is to ask for advice. Secondly, sometimes people don't agree with the advice thats given regardless of how much it makes sense, would work, or is clear. Sometimes communication is unclear and the person doesn't understand what you mean or thinks you mean something other than what you meant (mostly happens with language barriers). In any case, all you can do is offer your best advice and let the person make the final decision about how to handle it and if they will use all or some of your advice. Don't take it personally if they don't use it, instead just be thankful they felt they could come to you for advice to begin with.





Best of luck to you...
Perhaps the people do not like the advise that is given or they are scared to do the right thing. I give a lot of advice here in hopes that people will make the right decisions where I might not have in the past, but ultimately all it is is advice. It is up to the person receiving to use it or not.
because naturally when others ask for advice its just to compare it to what they think and in the end they end up doing wht they wanted from the beginning they just want some justification and to feel like they included someone else when really in the end they arent going to use ur advice they are going to go with what they want to do
I always tell my friends when they come to me for advice,';I don't want you to go out and do this without thinking. I want you to think about it first and then decide to do what I advised you or whatever you want. I don't want you to think that you have to follow everything I say.';
They ask for advice already knowing what to do. They want someone to tell them exactly what they're thinking, and then they will follow through with what ever it is. If someone tells them to do something that's not what they're thinking, then they just ignore it. Hope I helped! = ]
Sometimes when people ask questions they already have an answer in their head and what they want to hear. So they are really just making sure they are not crazy and making sure someone else thinks its a good idea too. Only some people do that.
They do it to help formulate a decesion. People like to talk about their problems -- no really they do. Plus...the majority of people are usually wrong. Always go with the minority.
People usually know what they are supposed to do but dont wanna do it, they just wanna hear something different to justify not doing the right thing
They are not really asking a question but rather venting a frustration to which they already know the eventual outcome. And besides if you only have 0% best answer no one will trust your advice anyway.
Because sometimes it's not what they think would be best. Yes, they ask for it, but sometimes others have better advise that they dish out for that situation.
its hard to override our natural desire to do what we WANT to do.





However, doing whats best for ourselves....thats hard
because the advice that was given isn't the advice they were looking for
mostly because the advice isn't what you wanted to hear...i do it too
because they know the answer or what to do already.