How to advice people without hurting them? how to be strong & self-confident without pride? how to be yourself?

1.how to advice people without hurting them?{give them little hints on what u r trying to say!!!!2.how to be strong %26amp; self-confident without pride? think good of ur self a little bit each day!!!!3.how to be yourself?go out and do somethings with ur friends!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!