Lets say you've been rejected all your life by people and when it's time to go to work, you have to work around people. So, how would someone who is afraid of people and speaking to them go about making it in the work place. How can they recover and cope. Yes I know see a therapist but in the meantime what can they do?What advice would you give someone who is afraid of talking to people for fear of regection?
Bite the bullet and just speak up. It will probably be necessary for you to talk at work, and most of the conversation will be related to work, so it's doubtful that anyone will reject you. I think your fear of rejection is making your life miserable and holding you back from what you really want to do. A therapist can help, but you have to make the effort yourself. Just tell yourself that you are as good as, or even better, than other people, and there is no reason to feel rejected. I think your own worse enemy is yourself, dear. Get those demons out of you and let your true self emerge, just like a beautiful butterfly.What advice would you give someone who is afraid of talking to people for fear of regection?
No you don't need a therapist.
The easiest way to overcome a fear of talking is to talk to strangers on a subway for about an hour after that your fear of talking to people will be gone. The only way to overcome a fear is to confront it directly. Used to be shy then i was talkative and then i was shy again but now it depends on the situation.
This fear of rejection you have you need to realize is not real. The worse the person you talk to can say is don't talk to me. Thats it. It will not hurt you or kill you, there is nothing to fear.
You are close to the answer. Wait for them to come to you and decide if they are players or outsiders. Don't treat them as the same personality. You will need to develop a list of signs to separate the two groups.
great question and i agree with fresh jeff, he is 100 percent correct about this.
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they'll talk to you instead.
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